the sharp hint of new tears

[juldea]

What kind of relationships would we have if the long, passionate, unedited rants we rehearse in our heads when we're alone, wishing someone else were in front of us listening without interruption, actually came to light without strict revision?

I get a small feeling of deja vu writing this, as if I have posted something similar in the recent past. Ah well.

Comments

[descant.livejournal.com]

I think that we would all learn how to be more honest with each other.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Part of me thinks that... and part of me thinks that instead we'd all shrink away from each other and relationships at all. After all, honesty is scary and not always the thing that causes the least amount of strife...

[descant.livejournal.com]

It really depends on maturity and how polite we all are to each other. Some people get defensive with honesty. Some people get very hurt. Some people actually like it, no matter how scathing it is.

I've always been a believer of honest and open communication. None of us are perfect at it or are all times the best time to engage in such .. but it's what I personally believe. *shrugs*

[tramissa.livejournal.com]

I have to agree to this. I was in a situation recently where I broke up with my bf. Rather than him coming out and telling me that 'I've found someone I want to be with more', he made a lot of platitudes and kept telling me how special I was blah blah but that he couldn't cope with the situation (distance). So I wasted a lot of time and energy, not to mention emotional anguish, to try and figure out a way around the situation, when it was all for nothing anyway. If he had only come out with the first statement in the beginning, it may have hurt more initially, like a slap on the wrist, but it wouldn't have been drawn out, days when I could barely eat or sleep for worrying over things. And I had to foce him to admit it in the end anyway, but by then I'd already drawn my own conclusions ;)

Honesty may be harder to deal with initially, but I'll take it any day over censoring and platitudes.

[descant.livejournal.com]

I think that people cause more trouble trying to be nice because then they be all nice and polite but then go around behind people's backs to complain. It destroys trust.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Oh honey... I didn't know what had happened. That sucks. *hugs*

[tramissa.livejournal.com]

yeah, it sucks...but...I dunno, I'm dealing with it a lot better than I thought I would. Especially now that I have the truth. And it opens up a lot of things that I wanted to do but was putting off or couldn't do..so I have lots of stuff to look forward to :) which helps a lot.

I didn't want to post stuff about it because Pat still reads my lj and we're TRYING to rebuild a friendship..not sure how that is going to go yet, but I still didn't want a lot of antagonisment, which was bound to happen if I posted.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Nod, I think that if that situation were to happen with me and I posted it, there'd be a lot of people commenting offering to kill him off and that's not really good for keeping a friendship...

I'm glad you're dealing with it well. *hug*

[jester-king.livejournal.com]

Now who do you know that would threaten bodily harm to someone just for hurting you?

[juldea.livejournal.com]

You are indeed in that list, Tim dear.

[jester-king.livejournal.com]

A) I never threatened bodily harm, I kinda liked the guy, I'da killed him painlessly

B) I'm sure that list is pretty long :-p Somehow I doubt I'd have a chance of doing anything fun to anyone while you're so far away

Hehe

[sin-vraal.livejournal.com]

I'm more of the 'mentally/emotionally destroy' variety of person-who-hurt-Julia-hurter.

Re: Hehe

[juldea.livejournal.com]

For the record, Tim is referring to someone else (not Jason).