meme, inspiring thought

[juldea]

This has only showed up in two friends' journals, and I didn't respond to it there because they're people I've only met once and only follow through LJ... but I'm inspired to do it myself.

How did you meet me?
What did you think of me when you first met me?
How has that perception changed/not changed?

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[prowlingkitten.livejournal.com]

How did you meet me? at the werewolf LARP
What did you think of me when you first met me? you seem very kewl, remind me of my best friend Kelly who lives out in Illinois
How has that perception changed/not changed? it hasn't changed... I think it would be kewl to get to know you better tho.

[brewergnome.livejournal.com]

Being one of those people and the originator...

I met you and Randycon

You seemed like a cool person. My kind of girl, tough and not gonna take shit, with just enough random bouncyness. Oh, and you made boob jokes, which I love.

Hasn't changed much, but then as you said, besides that one time, we only see eachother on LJ.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Oh man, I feel shown up now. ;)

I'm in Worcester pretty often, we should actually hang out...

[flyingindie.livejournal.com]

I first met you at Med Faire when you were bellydancing and Brendan steering the group over to talk to you. You told me I looked like Liv Tyler, and I instantly thought you were rad. Ahhhh, but seriously, I thought you were cool then and I still do now.

YAY!!!*


*That last "yay" is something the Letters kids and I started doing in Italy. It's supposed to be a little joke about Peggy Chambers, because she ends every freaking email with "YAY!!!" I thought you'd appreciate it.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Well, it's been a while since I received an email from Peggy, but I believe it. ;)

Yay, I'm cool!!

[tlluria.livejournal.com]

1) Randycon
2) "hm. I think I'll want to talk to her more." which never really developed, because of seating arrangements, I think. Although, it's funny, I only really remember what was going on to the left of me. weird.
3) It wasn't really a perception, but clearly since we've friended each other that's not changed. In fact I'm finding that certain (more or less) peripheral social circles actually overlap with yours and I keep expecting to run into you one of these days. New England is small after all and Mass even smaller, for all the big heads running around. ;)

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Heh, I'm sure it will happen someday, if not at Randycon2 (which I will start nudging him about when he gets home from his trip). :)

haha

[tlluria.livejournal.com]

I actually rephrased a comment about "... at the very latest at Randycon II" to what I posted above

Re: haha

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Grin. We all want it to happen; it WILL happen!

[baronbrian.livejournal.com]

How did you meet me? jargo of course. And it was at that house that everyone seemed to hang out at in Edmond off of 3rd and Fretz? Sheesh, everytime I get together with John and Evan, that place seems to come up. What's it been now? Seven years or so?
What did you think of me when you first met me? "Damn it's dark out here. I can barely see her. She knows the names of stars and where they are? Cool!"
How has that perception changed/not changed? Not that I can tell.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

You still think it's dark out there and you can barely see me? ;)

[baronbrian.livejournal.com]

That too.

The "Cool!" part still applies.

I have to say that I respect you for the move to Boston. That really seemed to work out for you and you weren't sure if it would when you did it.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

That's really interesting, actually... the reasons I did weren't the reasons I was going to originally, really, and then everything went in even stranger directions than I thought... But yeah, it has worked out for me. There's still some working to go, but things are pretty good.

[alexx-kay.livejournal.com]

Met you at an after-dance-practice, when I joined a conversation of Justin and others answering your questions about the SCA. My first impression was that you asked very intelligent questions, and actually listened to the answers, always a good thing.

I sort of re-met you the following week, as you were wearing very different clothes, and Ididn't recognise you at first. My 'first' impression that time was "Cute girl! I should dance with her!"

My first first impression, of your intelligence, has remained pretty much the same. The second first impression has metamorphosed to "Hot babe! Damn shame about the monogamy thing." Oh, and I also now know you well enough to approve of your aesthetic tastes -- which is to say, they're close enough to mine that we generally have plenty to talk about :-)

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Metamorphing is good, but I hope I'm also still a cute girl you should dance with! ;)

[alexx-kay.livejournal.com]

Oh, sure, it's just a less significant aspect now. Perhaps I should have written "been subsumed by" rather than "metamorphosed to".

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Hmm. I'm not sure I'm entirely comfortable with that. As much as it's a compliment, I'd much rather the stronger impression be "cute girl to dance with" than "hot babe to," erm, want.

[alexx-kay.livejournal.com]

If it helps, I know full well I'm not going to, erm, 'get' you. But the stereotypical Guy side of my personality is incapable of giving up Hope. Luckily, there are enough other sides to me that I can usually still carry on coherent conversations when there are Hot Babes in the room :-)

[juldea.livejournal.com]

I don't think I clearly expressed my point... The way you said it sounded like the "hot babe" impression has greatly overtaken the "cute girl" impression, and it makes me uncomfortable to be friends with someone who sees me more as a hot babe than a cute girl, in the senses we're referring to.

Am I clear yet? I'm low on sleep thanks to last night, so I don't know if I'm communicating well. ;)

[alexx-kay.livejournal.com]

I *think* you're clear, but that doesn't mean that I'm right :-)

Perhaps I was being too clever/subtle with the link in the above post. Full quotation follows:

Harry Burns : What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright : That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns : No you don't.
Sally Albright : Yes I do.
Harry Burns : No you don't.
Sally Albright : Yes I do.
Harry Burns : You only think you do.
Sally Albright : You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns : No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright : They do not.
Harry Burns : Do too.
Sally Albright : They do not.
Harry Burns : Do too.
Sally Albright : How do you know?
Harry Burns : Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright : So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns : No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright : What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns : Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.

Now, I don't fully agree with Harry on this. Friendship is possible. But "the sex thing" is still always out there. If this makes you uncomfortable, I regret that. But it would be dishonest of me to pretend it wasn't so.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

I do know the quote, and understood your point.. hrm... is probably a moot argument, as you don't make me feel uncomfortable in person.

[ex-krink990.livejournal.com]

in physics class or band.. i can't remember which. when did you come to emhs? i don't remember first meeting you, but i remember sitting with you and kevin, and drooling over mr. mathis. weren't we like two of three girls in the ap physics class with about 12 guys? and didn't we have some other ap class together? those were the days. i miss when we were smart and had the whole word ahead of us!

then we went to OU, and we were ALMOST roomates, but somehow ended up going potluck instead. once we ate at denny's on main with some random friends and i won a conversation by saying "i am television's the electric factory." and you broke your leg, and i brought your books to the hospital. and then i didn't see you much, but i lived in your room with goldbug the first summer you went to boston, and your cats peed on my bag.

And now we're mostly internet buddies. I've always liked you, and in past months I've thought you should be more assertive. You have good taste in boys, too.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

I came to Edmond our junior year, a few weeks late into the school year. And yeah, in AP physics the next year it was just you, me, and... I can't remember. Were we in AP English or Calc or Gov't together, too? Calc sounds familiar...

More assertive, eh? Hrm. Is this is reference to my old roommate?

[ex-krink990.livejournal.com]

yes, roomate, and job hunting. based on what little we've spoken about each.

i think it must have been calc.. i didn't take english (the only one i didn't do AP). you weren't in bio were you? i think there was only me and one other who did physics and bio. how did i end up with a sales degree again? lol.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Bleh, job hunting. Yes, I need to be more assertive, but there's only so much you can fake assertion - and I don't have the backup for it. :P

Nod, I didn't take bio. It was ruined for me freshman year by a teacher named Mr. Geick (pronounce geek).

[juldea.livejournal.com]

*grin*

I was only quiet because I was surrounded by people I didn't know... neither did I know their "thing" really. Their... social norms? I suppose. I was the outsider.

Now you see I'm not at all quiet when in my own space!

[karldark.livejournal.com]

How did you meet me? A kara party
What did you think of me when you first met me? Conor's got a chick???... She's gotta be cool....
How has that perception changed/not changed? i think my assement was spot on.

[invader-haywire.livejournal.com]

How did you meet me? Through Randy's gaming community. Physically at my apartment when he ran a game there.

What did you think of me when you first met me? You were not part of the Worcester gaming crowd. A crowd that more and more I have been thinking I need out. You were someone new and so worth meeting. And I was the host so I was supposed to be nice (even though I made you snarf a tostito and salsa). 8)

How has that perception changed/not changed? I think I like you more. You're nice and give me internet hugs. Its early yet.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

We'll hang at Gaming Weekend, if you'll be there!

[tragicstory.livejournal.com]

LOL! I had totally forgotten about that!

[juldea.livejournal.com]

I hadn't. :P

[sammid.livejournal.com]

How did you meet me? Summer of last year,at the OMP in p-burgh...came to your hotel room to get the kitties.

What did you think of me when you first met me?I felt comfortable around you rather quickly which is very good for me.You seemed easy to talk to,and I felt that you had to be a good-hearted person cause you had kitties that you cared for and worried about ;)

How has that perception changed/not changed?It hasnt really,I've just learned more about you,feel closer to you,like I can talk to you more.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Someday you need to visit and see the kitties again... If you come to my house, Pixel will be comfortable and acting like herself again! And not hiding in box springs!

[sammid.livejournal.com]

Awwwww.I felt so bad for her...I wuvva them :)

[laura47.livejournal.com]

- you came to seduce my co-GM, who you'd only met online

- wait? huh? Who's that girl with londo? Wait? Huh? He has a girl? Wasn't he complaining about his lack of girl? who is she? OH GOD GAME AAAHHHHH.

- wait? huh? londo has a girl? *duck*

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Hey, at least now you don't have to add the "OH GOD GAME AAAHHHHH" part!

[mr-teem.livejournal.com]

1) With londo at a LARP playtest at WPI several months back.

2) "Hey, I heard londo had a new friend--this is her. A pleasant surprise! Maybe she LARPs. We'll find out. Seems hesitant. Meh. Game is pretty odd to start with. Maybe she'll be at 'D. Note to self: remember to ask whether or not she is having a good time at 'D."

3) Hurm. Definitely more confident, geeky, open and you play the piano (swoon). Others also speak highly of you.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I wasn't at my most confident at that game. My thoughts going into it were, "Maybe I LARP," too. ;)

Who are these "others"? ;)

[karlean7.livejournal.com]

1. Randycon!

2. She seems cool! Hard to tell, though, because OHGOD, SENSORY OVERLOAD! TOO MANY PEOPLE AND TOO MANY CONVERSATIONS!!

3. I love you <----------------------------this---------------------------> much. Which is supposed to be a lot, if that weren't clear.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Aww. *hugs*

[badanedwa.livejournal.com]

--> How did you meet me? --> you came over and asked, "are you bada?" in a very accomodating manner.

(unless we count "meeting" by way of three kingdoms. which doesn't entirely count, although i'd atleast seen photographs of you from previous omps.)

--> What did you think of me when you first met me? --> before you said hello, i thought, "right ok that's haplo. yes, definitely haplo. i'll have to say hello. ...i'll wait a few minutes however."

after you said hello... hmm lemme think, nice. nice is what i thought.

(on 3k? talkative. not excessively. not talkative in a manner meant to bother.)

--> How has that perception changed/not changed? --> i also now think: you worry too much.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Oh? What things do I worry about overmuch? (Feel free to respond via email if you think I'd prefer that answer to be private.)