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[juldea]

Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever had a boyfriend that really adhered to the "tell your girl how awesome she is at least every two minutes," rule. Is this just something men don't do?

[EDIT]: No, I don't expect this from boyfriends. Mentioning it as a 'rule' was facetious. However, I do it. I feel very strongly towards people, and feel the need to express my emotion often. Sometimes it becomes apparent that I'm saying it a whole lot while it's not said back to me, and no I don't get upset about this... I'm just curious. Because I know that it being said would make me very happy. I don't think it'd ever lose its touch.

[EDIT AGAIN]: Also, this 'rule' applies only to situations wherein you're not physically close to the boy. If you're physically close, obviously there's other ways to show affection (and not even REALLY OBVIOUS ways - just a look will do it).

And, from whom did I get this song?

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[tramissa.livejournal.com]

Why would you want them to? Seriously? That'd get boring and old and definitely not special fast.

I like it when they come out with it at odd moments..when you really need to hear it and it's more special because you know they really mean it - not just saying it because they're 'expected' to.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

See my editing of the post...

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[tramissa.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but I'm still in a situation where my boy is not physically close, and I still wouldn't want to hear it all the time. Of course, he does things constantly to make me feel special, even just little things like a special nickname used now and then, or telling me something he 'shouldn't' but really wants to share with me etc...

I don't need to hear 'you're the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me' constantly or anything like it :)

Btw - not saying you're wrong, just that -I'm- not like that and can't really understand it.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

I dunno, the random-yet-frequent, "You're swell!" just puts a smile to my face. The compliment need not be over-the-top... just a regular old compliment.

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[flyingindie.livejournal.com]

Zach and I compliment each other and say, "I love you," all the time, and I don't think it ever loses its meaning or feels trite.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Good to hear. :)

[xlost-girlx.livejournal.com]

i like to be told it pretty much constantly, and the boy knows that.
we live in different cities and only see each other on weekends, so it is a distance thing.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Good - someone else gets it! Lucky you! :)

[oddharmonic.livejournal.com]

Is this just something men don't do?

Mine still can't remember my birthday. (Nick can, but we have the same birthday. *snerk*)

Honestly, I don't know.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, I guess. In fact, I've read that book, and I think they do mention this. Heh.

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[siderea]

Sixty percent of men are from Mars, sixty percent of women are from Venus. Me and mine are in the other forty percents. He's very good at expressing his admiration and affection. I... try.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

I'll agree with that level of statistic. I found the books very... well, written for people that get a point much slower than I do, but I also found that I heavily identified with their description of female. However, I don't for a moment assume that all women are that way.

[ex-dervish821.livejournal.com]

Yeah, Nick can't remember Veronica's birthday. Then last time he got it right, except he got the wrong year. He also doesn't know how old his mom is. I don't get it.

[londo.livejournal.com]

Guilty on all counts.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Watch it, you, or I'll make you read Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus!! ;)

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Ah! Guilty of the song, too. I get it.

I'm smart, really.

(some guy named Jesus...)

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[londo.livejournal.com]

Man, you're lucky you're cute.

Hurry up and get here already!

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Just 3.5 more hours. Patience, grasshopper.

Oh, and ha. Impatience for my company is a way of telling me I'm awesome. Muah.

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[londo.livejournal.com]

Dammit! I lose again!

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Check your email, loser.

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[londo.livejournal.com]

I've been checking. Apparently LJ emails both of us faster than we can each other.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

...weird. Maybe we should just keep talking via LJ comments, then.

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[londo.livejournal.com]

Do we have anything to talk about at the moment? Besides the fact that I'm currently deciding whether to get wet and naked, or sooth my sudden and intense craving for rice with soy sauce?

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

First off: soothe.

Second: Since when did we need a reason to talk? :P

Third: Why not combine? Take a bowlful of rice to the shower, dump it on your head, and use soy sauce as shampoo.

Fourth: Are we going to Thai Cha Da this weekend? *flutter eyelashes*

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[londo.livejournal.com]

First off: soothe.
Working on it. My laziness may win, though.

Second: Since when did we need a reason to talk?
Don't need reason. Don't need rhyme. Ain't nothing I'd rather do. Except... well, we don't need to go into that here.

Third: Why not combine? Take a bowlful of rice to the shower, dump it on your head, and use soy sauce as shampoo.
See? I knew my faith in your ability to make that highly-expected comment interesting was wholly justified. I totally know how to pick 'em.

You haven't been to O'Connor's or Dragon Dynasty yet.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Get your laziness in now - I won't let you be so when I arrive. In fact, I plan on making you sweat.

Wait, this is a public post. I won't go any further with that. ;)

I hope you know how to pick 'em if you follow through with my plan, since there will be a lot of rice grains in your hair for the next week.

I forget what O'Connor's is supposed to be like. Remind me. Oh, and I'm going to be starving by the time I get there tonight.

[londo.livejournal.com]

I enjoy replying to comments before LiveJournal gets around to emailing me to tell me I have them.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

I enjoy giving you comments to reply to.

I enjoy you.

(See, people? Maybe not every two minutes, but often.)

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[londo.livejournal.com]

"I enjoy you."

That's not what you said last ni-- wait... it is. Dammit!

I lose again.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Yeeahhh.
I like this winning thing. I could get used to it.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Where'd you go?

[lady-heatherlyn.livejournal.com]

I never got that awesome thing from a boyfriend more than once. I doubt there's anything wrong with me, though, other than my taste in men. ;)

-bum magnet

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

*wiggles her bum at you*

Bum magnet!!

[breathingfire.livejournal.com]

if they don't tell me i'm beautiful (and they don't) a looot i think they are blind or taking it for granted.

mostly i'm worrying that they'll be jealous of me more than that they won't compliment me, cuz envious boyfriends get bitchy.

interesting question you posed.

i probably don't compliment people enough, myself.