analogy

[juldea]

Fear me and my analogies.

5 years ago, I wanted to date Nick Burnett. He was everything great and perfect to me (most of the time). ;) I planned my future life so that it included him in it, because that's what I desired.

After a while, we no longer desired to share our future lives in that way. We decided to break apart, and search for other people with whom to do that.

That doesn't make the time we spent together meaningless or a waste. It was good and happy at the time. It worked us towards the goal we wanted. The goal ended up changing, but that doesn't affect that time we had.

I've found a new person to want to share my future with, and I'm working towards that goal now. I'm not continuing to work towards spending my life with Nick - I don't want that. Why would I spend my time working on a goal I'm not interested in? THAT is wasting time.

Now, maybe ending up marrying Nick would solve some other goal. A goal for financial stability, maybe. But is not marrying him working against that other goal? Maybe making it a bit harder, yeah, but not hindering it. I'll just have to work a bit harder at it, go about it a different way.

So, the whole point here: replace Nick with "a college degree" (and obviously marriage = graduating with said degree).

Should I continue to waste my time working towards a goal I no longer want, only because it ensures an easier path to another goal I'm interested in the future? Or should I ditch this old unwanted goal and quit wasting my time on it now, with the knowledge that it will make my other future goal more difficult?

Comments

[gaffman.livejournal.com]

We're commenting because we care jewls.

Youre goals may have changed, but if you change what youre doing everytime your goals change you will complete very few of them and not benefit from the time you spent trying to achive them. If you were to drop out of school now then regardless of whether you enjoyed yourself or not, whatever you have learned, the main benefit to be gained from going to uni was to get a piece of paper that says you know stuff. Despite what you may know, people will be less inclined to believe you with out the piece of paper, take it from someone who chose shun the education system all together. Ive had to prove my worth every step of the way and its HARD to get your foot in the door when all you have say is 'i know my shit, no really'.

The gist of what im saying basicly being that however you choose to see it, if you leave now the time you spent at school will have been wasted in one sense or another. The time you could have spent with jason and didnt because you were trying to get a degree you didnt end up getting, the time you could have spent getting experience at a lower level to replace your lack of a degree, wasted in the same way, and now you will have to spend that time anyway because you DONT have a degree and you wil need experience on your resume to replace that.

In short hon, maybe its not your goal now, but it will quite possibly make achiving your future goals easier, giving up now will only give people the impression that youre a quitter, or that you cant follow thru, that you never finish anything. whether its true or not, people who dont know you as well as your friends will assume if thats all they have to go on.

much luv
C.

[mongonoodle.livejournal.com]

i'm gonna have to give this a hearty "hear here." you sound like a more-sensible-than-the-average-boy boy. most people i know would just say "fuck it" and let go. julia, if you geniunely think that stopping school and heading out towards your next goal in line is a *good* or *prudent* idea, then talk to any of the zillions of people we know who have no degree and suddenly decide they want to change jobs. it makes it terribly difficult. even with great references. even with a stunning resume or portfolio. people are jerks, and they want to see the little piece of paper. they want you to be a *certified* smarty. hell. look at me. i've even got the little paper, but all it says is that i know how to play the viola, and still nobody wants to hire me. you're working on a good, solid, useful degree. you've paid so much money for it, and invested so much time. just another little push and you'll be there, paper in hand, and *then* you can drop everything for jason.

[gaffman.livejournal.com]

AHAHAHAAHAHAAAAA someone called me sensible :P