Inter402 is Jason

[juldea]

Inter402 (11:36:16 PM): you're trying to pin the blame on something
Inter402 (11:36:30 PM): and you're very skeptical of getting outside help besides your friends or yourself
Inter402 (11:36:36 PM): I think that's a mistake
Inter402 (11:36:42 PM): on both counts
Inter402 (11:36:57 PM): first because you're trying to find one single problem to nail down, and it's probably a lot of things
Inter402 (11:37:17 PM): secondly, because none of the people you are asking for advice are people who should be giving you the kind of advice you really need

Discuss. No, really. Someone write a comment, please. One that relates to this discussion.

Comments

[ex-dervish821.livejournal.com]

if jason knows the kind of advice you really need, fantastic.

i mean, yeah, it apparently hasn't done a whole lot of good to talk everything through with people so far, so another approach maybe would seem to be in order? what do you have to lose?

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

It seems like you're the person who got closing to discussing what I actually wanted everyone to discuss. Guess I wasn't clear, or something.

I am afraid that I will spend time, money, and hope in people who are supposed to be "professional" and "educated" in human psychology, only to be told to go to church, and quit resisting conformity. I'm afraid that they won't say this right out - they'll get my trust first, and slowly shape me into something I don't want to be, so slow that I don't realize it until it's happened.

I'm an elitist, I know that. It's something goldbug was semi-talking about in the car the other day. The people I hang out with are not "people", they're not the mass. Maybe we're not "better" than everyone else, but we're certainly different - we're more book-intelligent, we see different solutions to problems, we don't follow the "regular" course of what people should do (we move to Berkeley, and get piercings, and have relationships over the internet, and change our major one semester before graduating. and much much more).

I doubt I will find a psychologist who understands and groks this kind of lifestyle and belief system. I will go in with big hopes that they will be able to help me, and those hopes will be crushed because their solutions will have nothing to do with my life.

That is why I look to my friends for help, and don't want to look elsewhere.

[ex-dervish821.livejournal.com]

whoa, that's totally strange. there are tons of different therapists out there. if you get one that tells you to go to church to fix your problems, or one who doesn't take you seriously, find a new one. i don't think that that is anywhere near a valid reason to avoid professional help.

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[juldea.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but it's how I feel. Maybe it's because of my job or something, but I just can't trust people to be intelligent unless 1) I meet them through an intelligent friend, or 2) I get to know them well enough to know they're intelligent. Heh.