what's wrong

[juldea]

I'm in pain.
I'm overweight.
I'm broken.
My boyfriend finds it difficult to deal with comforting me.
I'm having a very bad time of the month.
One of my favorite hobbies is collapsing around me, and by "around me" I mean that it's being blamed on me. So who knows how much longer that's going to go.
I'm getting sick.
I'm expected to retype a 3" binder full of documents into Excel.
Another one of my hobbies is becoming a burden because people desire me to be more serious about it than I desire to be, and are bugging me.
Some other girl, who is really awesome in a bunch of ways that I'm not, has been hitting on my boyfriend and telling him that she really wants him.
I don't have enough crafting time.
Did I mention I'm in pain?

Comments

[43duckies.livejournal.com]

::hug::

[jicklet.livejournal.com]

*hug*

you're awesome.

And if she's hitting on your boyfriend, then she's lacking in character and thus not that awesome after all...

[juldea.livejournal.com]

He's totally worth hitting on...

[jicklet.livejournal.com]

oh, of course he is.

But when you meet someone totally worth hitting on, you hit on them, and then when they say they're taken, you back off.

I meant that only shitty people actively try to steal other people's S.O.'s.

*hugs again*

[mr-teem.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[scirocco.livejournal.com]

Sorry I can't help with your issues, but I can send a *HUG* your way

[sangria2.livejournal.com]

That other girl can go straight to hell. You can tell her I said that.

Hitting on someone else's sig other is looow.
Also, your hobbies should be *your* hobbies because they're fun. You can't make everyone happy; you should at least try to keep yourself that way.
I hope you feel better soon.

[karlean7.livejournal.com]

If you need me to hope on over there, I will.

[tpau]

*hug* sorry life is sucking. knitting is the answer. i think. it certanly helps me ignore my life completly :)

*hug*

[anitra.livejournal.com]

1) Take a deep breath.
2) Try to deal with just one or two of these problems at a time.

• If you're not enjoying your hobby(ies), you can ease yourself out of them.
• Work sucks. It's called "work" and not "play" for a reason. (YMMV)
• Take some painkillers, if possible.
• Lastly - this other girl may not realize that your boyfriend is monogamous (since almost everyone he hangs out with is poly.) If she does know that, and persists... that's not cool. You have my permission to be pissed off at her. Also, talk to your boyfriend about this. Perhaps he needs to make it clear to this girl that he is "taken" so that she'll leave him alone.

Re: *hug*

[juldea.livejournal.com]

This girl isn't from any of our poly social groups, and yes she knows that we are dating and that we are monogamous. He has also been, as far as I know, clear to her that he isn't at all interested in her like that. She only just today actually SAID to him, "I want you so bad," and still got rebuffed (rather than just flirting) so maybe soon she'll quit it.

Re: *hug*

[sammid.livejournal.com]

*hugs*
you've got a pretty good guy from what i can tell,so be happy about that.I can tell you're rather depressed and I really feel for you,cause I have been extremely depressed myself recently,so holler at me anytime.
Havent been online too much tho :-/
If the girl doesnt get the hint,beat the bitches ass!Will definately make ya feel better :)

[londo.livejournal.com]

She can hit on me all she wants. She ain't gettin' anywhere.

[siderea]

That may be true, but it's irksome for juldea to watch it happening, because, completely aside from any anxiety she may or may not feel about your behavior, this bint's conduct is actually a considerable diss to juldea. This other woman is not respecting juldea's prior claim to the territory of your ass, and she's flaunting her disrespect for juldea's claim.

Don't abet this chick dissing your lady, dude.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

"bint". Love it.

Also, londo, you were asking me earlier why it bothered me, when the bus arrived and I had to go. siderea makes one of my points - because it's disrespectful. She may say, "I respect the relationship you two have," but by continuing to communicate to you that she desires the end of that relationship, she's NOT respecting it.

[shogunhb.livejournal.com]

Couldn't have expressed that better myself.
Good show!

[sammid.livejournal.com]

That was such an awesome post!

I'm glad to hear that . . .

[fluttergrrl30.livejournal.com]

Because I was seriously contemplating giving you a sad case of "The Broken Londos", and by "Londos", I mean "legs".

I say that with love, dear heart. Which I think you know.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

*hugs you for being awesome*

also, I used the sleepy icon for you.

[zenandtheart.livejournal.com]

Nasty when things stack up like that.. huge sympathy from me! I'm quite impressed when girls hit on Corch.. kind of reaffirms to me that I have a guy that is worth having and I know he loves the attention. I know we're in a different sort of relationship but even if we weren't I don't think I'd mind.

Sounds like a lot of people are dumping things on you.. are you good at saying 'no'?

[juldea.livejournal.com]

No! :P

[zenandtheart.livejournal.com]

grin:)

[siderea]

Recommendations:

1) Take some aspirin.

2) Treat yourself tonight. Make a food you like, or get a chocolate you like, or take a long bath by candlelight, or read something you enjoy, or go out to a movie, or something special.

3) I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but I'm booked tonight and tomorrow. :( Do you have another woman to do the girly-phone thing with?

[juldea.livejournal.com]

I have, uh... *looks* Naproxin. Hopefully it'll be worth something.

I'm eating pizza. While that doesn't help one of the items on the list, it was waiting for me when I got home because I have a nice roommate who reads LJ and decided I needed to have food waiting for me. This helps.

I appreciate your wanting to be a shoulder. :) I do have some others I can talk to, yes. Thanks.

[ex-sleek838.livejournal.com]

hugs and smooches for you. i relate. although you're a lot more talented than me.

[crazybone.livejournal.com]

Dreadfully sorry that life is full of suck at the moment.
Hope it does a quick turnaround.
And I hope the sickness passes uneventfully.

Prescription for you: <3

[princesscurly.livejournal.com]

One of my favorite hobbies is collapsing around me, and by "around me" I mean that it's being blamed on me. So who knows how much longer that's going to go.

Well I won't let you go away, cuz if you go away, I'll go away, so no going away you hear me? cuz yeah. and stuff.

Some other girl, who is really awesome in a bunch of ways that I'm not, has been hitting on my boyfriend and telling him that she really wants him.

Ok, let me count the ways that you are more awesomezors.
Wait that would take a year and a half.
I would never have a dream about moving next door to her because it was fated for me to move!!!
I don't marry just anyone you know.

Feel better, love. *hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs*

I wish I could do more from half a country away.

All I can do is just listen and bask in the amazingness of you.

Re: Prescription for you: <3

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Your <3 is a great prescription :)

I'm not going away. No worries.

*hugs*

[jester-king.livejournal.com]

Deep breath, hold it, hold it, I'm gonna go have a cigarrette, but keep holding it . . . . Ok, let it out! Now if you haven't passed out, good for you, but you probably cheated. :-) Anyway, sorry to hear about the pain and stuff, as for the hobbies, hell they're hobbies if people are giving you shit about them for any reason remind them that in this place some of us like to call reality hobbies are the things you do for fun and drop like a hot rock when they aren't fun anymore. As for la belle dame sans merci hittin' on your guy, I feel the proper response is public humiliation followed by carefully orchestrated jeering and smack talking. Not only will this make YOU feel much better, it has a fairly high chance of teaching the woman a lesson.

[juldea.livejournal.com]

Eh, I don't think that'll make me feel much better, because outside of the flirting she's a pretty cool person who's nothing but nice to me. Of course, if she continues after he and I have told her to stop, THEN we'll start the public humiliation and smack talking.

[karldark.livejournal.com]

he isnt that stupid... and you know it. You are totally an awesome chick. You totally pwn that bitch. As for the other stuff im terribly sorry to hear about that. I hope you get well soon. And try talking to your friends about things

[caltren.livejournal.com]

Lots of good advice, all of which you know. Nothing more to add other than *hugegigantoubermegamacrosnugglecuddlehealinghug* You're going to bounce back, so I'm not worried overmuch. Just... I send many thoughts and sympathies in your direction. *comfort*

[eustacia42.livejournal.com]

--hug from me too--

my number one question is: are you getting enough sleep?

--followed immediately up by:

are you getting TOO MUCH sleep?

and then, after that, you know, it's like a maslow's hierarchy of needs sort of thing. make sure you are sleeping and eating healthily, getting a bit of sunshine (in case you have seasonal affective diaorder and might not realize it), breathing fresh air (open the windows for a while--even if it's cold--to air out the stale winter house air!).

also, you know i had to say THIS: your surroundings must be in order and clear of clutter, as well as reasonably clean of dirt, dust and grime, if you want to have peace and serenity in your life. (did i ever recommend that clutter book to you? goodness knows i have ranted about it on everyone i know's lj) (damn that bad grammer, arrrrgh)

the hobbies you are referring to: is it the DJ thing, or knitting, or both, or neither, or what? i sometimes lose the plot thread, especially when i generally stick to my "friends" page and rarely stray off into someone's actual journal...

pain: is there a doctor who can prescribe you some good stuff? also, is it your knee, or other general pain, or emotional pain, etc?

that other girl: the other people who have already commented are right. she needs to back the fuck off (biotch).

getting sick: is it a cold? if so, there is a product called Zicam that works wonders if you use it within the first 48 hours of having cold symptoms, and follow the directions. It may be too late this time, but get some of it the next time you go shopping so you'll have it handy if another cold strikes later. (zicam cold remedy swabs, those are what i recommend. also, Cold-Eeze lozenges and elderberry lozenges help fight it off too.)

overweight: exercise (duh, right?) which will also release feel-good endorphins to help the pain and emotional crap and time-o'-the-month-ness. however, since your knee is fucked up, you might want to try a low- to no-impact activity like swimming, or perhaps you can punch a punching bag or use a rowing machine or something that works out only the upper body and not the legs, until you are healed. even doing some dumbbell lifting or crunches/situps might do the trick to get the metabolism going.

and, of course, there is always the old reliable pick-me-up: dye your hair!! :)

please keep us posted, and let me know your AIM screenname and what times you are generally online and we'll rendezvous for that snail address. :)

hope that helped!

[juldea.livejournal.com]

are you getting enough sleep? are you getting TOO MUCH sleep?
I'm getting between 6-8 hours a night generally. Some weekends I get to sleep in and then I can go as long as 10, but my body doesn't do the marathon 12 hour sessions anymore without extreme tiredness, which generally doesn't happen.

eating healthily
I'm trying - I'm trying to eat by the Weight Watchers core plan, I eat a lot of fruits and veggies and try to get in good proteins like tuna and tofu often. I rarely drink soda and even more rarely drink non-diet soda... I could probably work on my water intake though.

getting a bit of sunshine
Hard to get around here right now, but I try for it. It gets dark before I get out of work though >_<

breathing fresh air
I'm outside a lot in the mornings and evenings taking the bus and transferring from bus to bus and waiting... But the house could probably use a fresh breeze, yeah.

your surroundings must be in order and clear of clutter, as well as reasonably clean of dirt, dust and grime, if you want to have peace and serenity in your life. (did i ever recommend that clutter book to you? goodness knows i have ranted about it on everyone i know's lj)
Ha, haha, hahahha. While my apartment isn't, well, londo's, it's not entirely in order and is DEFINITELY not clean. I do know that this matters, but finding the time to tidy up is rough.

the hobbies you are referring to:
I was being vague about them on purpose.

pain: is there a doctor who can prescribe you some good stuff? also, is it your knee, or other general pain, or emotional pain, etc?
Knee, and I do have naproxin. But it has to be taken with food. And I don't always remember, when I eat.

getting sick: is it a cold?
It's a sore throat, but so far it hasn't become anything else. I'm a big fan of Cold-Eeze so don't worry about that. :)

exercise
The annoying thing is that I signed up for the local gym the DAY BEFORE I hurt my knee. Grrr. So I'm waiting until I see my doctor again or a physical therapist to ask them if I should get the membership cancelled (I'm sure with the dated doctor's note it'd work) or if they think there are specific activities I could do. There IS a pool there... I think it depends on what's wrong with my knee. :P

and, of course, there is always the old reliable pick-me-up: dye your hair!! :)
Actually, I'm really happy with how my hair - my NATURAL hair!! - is turning out. So that's out for the moment. ;)

let me know your AIM screenname and what times you are generally online
It is, like everywhere else, juldea! And I'm almost always on, but I'm active when I'm at work (7:30-4 Central) and sometimes in the evenings (5-8or10).

Thanks for all the advice :)

[eustacia42.livejournal.com]

no problemo! i'm full of advice... or at the very least, full of something.... lol

i'm eustacia42 on AIM and i will try to catch you on an evening session since IMing is prohibited at work! hehe :)

btw, i might send the clutter book along with your needles... it is tres excellente!

have a good nite :)