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juldeaWhile at Tiffany's on Thursday, she passed along some insight that one of her professors has shared with the class:
There is no completely 'right' feeling.
There are many ways to tell if something is wrong. Aside from the larger fear/guilt/anger emotions, there are also just little twinges you can feel that tell you if something is wrong. We all know them, I would say.
But there's no real 'right' feeling, as much as we look for it, the feeling that this is the completely right thing to do and I have no worries or problems with it.
So, if this is true, I could be freaking out for the wrong reason. As my graduation draws nigh, I have been freaking out because Jason's and my relationship wasn't perfect, that I could feel nagging doubts telling me it could go wrong, that there would be stuff we'd have to seriously work at to make things come out right. And this bothered me, because I thought that I shouldn't strive for something if it's not perfect.
Am I being stupid about that? Am I never going to feel a completely 'right' feeling about such a large decision as who to spend my life with? Should I work against my nagging doubts rather than accept them, and to what degree?
Older/wiser/married people comment, please... ;)
There is no completely 'right' feeling.
There are many ways to tell if something is wrong. Aside from the larger fear/guilt/anger emotions, there are also just little twinges you can feel that tell you if something is wrong. We all know them, I would say.
But there's no real 'right' feeling, as much as we look for it, the feeling that this is the completely right thing to do and I have no worries or problems with it.
So, if this is true, I could be freaking out for the wrong reason. As my graduation draws nigh, I have been freaking out because Jason's and my relationship wasn't perfect, that I could feel nagging doubts telling me it could go wrong, that there would be stuff we'd have to seriously work at to make things come out right. And this bothered me, because I thought that I shouldn't strive for something if it's not perfect.
Am I being stupid about that? Am I never going to feel a completely 'right' feeling about such a large decision as who to spend my life with? Should I work against my nagging doubts rather than accept them, and to what degree?
Older/wiser/married people comment, please... ;)