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juldeaWhen I am in love with andor dating someone, everyone knows. I am a touchy-feely affectionate person. I hold hands with my boy, snuggle him, and kiss him publicly. I also get very happy about the start of the relationship, and make sure all my friends know about it because I love sharing happy news.
Of course we are snuggly and lovey in private, and with our close friends. But that also extends to the public. We (at least me) would have to consciously try to stop our actions of romance, and what reason is there for it? Should we hide the fact that we're in love? Is there something wrong with being affectionate in public? I certainly don't think so.
The reason why I'm saying all this is that I'm just very confused by Brendan and Kate's approach at their relationship. They're not hiding it from anyone. I keep wondering about that and asking them, but they're not. They don't care who knows. But yet, somehow, they act like they're trying to hide it.
Lots of people didn't know they were dating until recently. Certainly people who were close friends and would SEE them knew, but close friends who didn't see them together had no way of knowing, or friends who were semi-close but never saw the two of them together... and certainly not anyone passing by on the street.
Like I said, I know they're not hiding it. But why wait until someone asks? It seems like whenever I have happy news, I don't want people to randomly find out about it in an unknown period of time - I want to share the news! Guess what, we're a couple! Isn't it great!?!?!
Also, they don't act couple-y in public. Once again, I'm sure it's not a hiding thing. But why, if you're super-snuggly in private, not be so in public? What does make you stop? Does it not seem appropriate?
I'm not trying to say anyone is wrong, I'm just trying to understand differences. :)
I got very confused because I didn't know if I was supposed to surpress any comments about their relationship around her family and her friends, because they weren't saying anything about it or showing any affection in public. I didn't know what was going on at all... Because neither did they tell me, "Don't tell her parents! It's a secret!" Finally last night I came out with my confusion, and while I think I know how to act from here on out, I still don't understand the workings of their... workings.
So, anyone else have relationship styles, or comments on the two already described?
Of course we are snuggly and lovey in private, and with our close friends. But that also extends to the public. We (at least me) would have to consciously try to stop our actions of romance, and what reason is there for it? Should we hide the fact that we're in love? Is there something wrong with being affectionate in public? I certainly don't think so.
The reason why I'm saying all this is that I'm just very confused by Brendan and Kate's approach at their relationship. They're not hiding it from anyone. I keep wondering about that and asking them, but they're not. They don't care who knows. But yet, somehow, they act like they're trying to hide it.
Lots of people didn't know they were dating until recently. Certainly people who were close friends and would SEE them knew, but close friends who didn't see them together had no way of knowing, or friends who were semi-close but never saw the two of them together... and certainly not anyone passing by on the street.
Like I said, I know they're not hiding it. But why wait until someone asks? It seems like whenever I have happy news, I don't want people to randomly find out about it in an unknown period of time - I want to share the news! Guess what, we're a couple! Isn't it great!?!?!
Also, they don't act couple-y in public. Once again, I'm sure it's not a hiding thing. But why, if you're super-snuggly in private, not be so in public? What does make you stop? Does it not seem appropriate?
I'm not trying to say anyone is wrong, I'm just trying to understand differences. :)
I got very confused because I didn't know if I was supposed to surpress any comments about their relationship around her family and her friends, because they weren't saying anything about it or showing any affection in public. I didn't know what was going on at all... Because neither did they tell me, "Don't tell her parents! It's a secret!" Finally last night I came out with my confusion, and while I think I know how to act from here on out, I still don't understand the workings of their... workings.
So, anyone else have relationship styles, or comments on the two already described?